One life. That's all we've got.
The thing is, that everyday troubles and routines make us forget that. We tend to focus on small issues like whether to have a donut or something more healthy for breakfast and whether to go to the gym or rather stay home, or whether to date this guy/gal or another. Of course we also make more important decisions. What job to take. Whom, if anyone, to marry. Whether to have kids. And that's when it matters most.
But we create our one life every day. And if we’re not careful we might regret some of these decisions at the end of the day.
There is so many choices and so many options and the end seems so far away when we’re young. Recently I have bumped into Bronnie Ware’s blog post and it has touched me deeply. Bronnie worked with dying people for many years and in her blog and later in her book she put together the five regrets she heard from them the most.
Here they are. The top five regrets of the dying:
- I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
- I wish I didn’t work so hard.
- I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
- I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
- I wish that I had let myself be happier.
For me it’s the first one that touches my heart.
I read it and instantly tears emerged in my eyes. Without any thought or contemplation. For the last seven or so years, I have been peeling off one expectation after another from my life. My journey has been one of courage. Finding the courage to be myself and with pride show the world who I am. Without apologizing. Without rounding the edges. Maybe for you it is another one that touches your heart because you know, somewhere deep inside, that you will regret it one day.
Whichever one touches you, I want to encourage you to join me and change what you need to change in your life.
We really only have one life.
If you want to learn more about Bronnie and how this knowledge transformed her life, check out this interview: